Couch Surfing in Bellaria Igea Marina and Rimini , Italy.

This is how you eat Pizza.

This is how you eat Pizza.

Just the other day I went for a bike ride for the first time in 13 years. Even back then I only have ridden the bike once on Magnetic Island in Qld Australia.  When I tell people that I don’t really know how to ride a bike, people here in Europe just look at me blank in the face, then assumed I was just joking.
“Oh come on you never forget how to ride a bike” they say.
This is true. I did get on a bike and ride for 7 km, about near crying all the way. First lesson to anyone who get back on the bike after a long time, learn how to “BREAK” !!!

Anyway stacking a bike going down hill at 0.5km ph is not so bad, but stacking the bike with the bike on top of your left leg and then falling on top of the bike and knowing I have gained a few Kg is embarrassing and freaking painful. Luckily I only did that once.

Traveling make you try more things then if you were to stay in your own back yard. And not knowing the language is a challenge coming from someone who does not shut up. But I have learn how to think more before I speak or hand gestures here in Italy

Valentine’s day I went ice skating, and yes it has been years since the last time I did that to. Happy to say I only fallen down twice 🙂

Let me show you how to Skate. "not"

Let me show you how to Skate. “not”

I have been in Ballaria , near  Rimini for over two weeks now and the place we are staying is on the second floor of a large three level house Italian style with a lift.

A three course meal is served every lunch and dinner. After every meal we have a small shot of espresso. I tell you what,  Italian do know how to make a mean espresso.

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I will miss this place, Matia and his families.  I especially love the food conversations starting with… what is in this meal? Then his mum would run to the kitchen come back with a plant or a specific meat or ingredients and say it in Italian and I repeat the name in Italian and then I would say the name again in English.

Matia’s father is a civil engineer who also take care of a medium size hotel 10 mt away facing the East side of the beach. I remember his name only because the hotel is called “Marcus”

This was taken just a short walk away.

This was taken just a short walk away.

The room we stayed in is comfortable with a balcony and our own private bathroom Just like the hotel. They use the house for accommodation when the hotel is full in summer.

As for Matia’s mum… well she is the one taking care of her boys, shopping cooking and really is the back bone of this family. I really appreciate and respect how she keep her family together. All her cooking is amazing and most of the time is better then the restaurants we go to around here. The only exception is a wood fired pizza cooked at the Italian restaurant. You can expect to pay between 5 to 9.50 Euro for a good pizza around here. I was about to pass out when I saw that a bottle of 1.5 lt water at the supper market start at only .15 cents and a bottle of whiskey you  can purchase for around 6 Euro.

Who want a drink? Prices of Liqueur here is less then the price of wine in Australia.

Who want a drink? Prices of Liqueur here is less then the price of wine in Australia.

The cost of me staying here? Zero. Of course we would help out with food and alcohol that we drank but overall with my living cost in Australia hitting $1500 pw just to survive the bills what I spend now is nothing.

So dear friends…. go on help a friend who is in need of a couch or floor or bed you just never know what karma gives you back in return.

My only advice to any new Couch surfing host,  is to set the ground rule from the beginning. Have signs and instruction on toilet walls, and fridge. Especially when water is scares show them how to save water. Have a second fridge for them so that there is no confusion about who’s food it is and if you are happy to share then do so. Don’t forget it is your home and they will respect that if you are firm from the beginning. It is perfectly ok to ask them to help clean the house or water the garden but please have a list ready otherwise this can get confusing for people. Most couch surfers do want to help but instructions must be clear and precise.

It does cost a little bit to host people but the friendship that come from it is worth the investment.. wouldn’t you agree?

Eating Pizza at Matilda, Rimini. Please take yourself there the food is awesome and the super size pizza that we ate is only around 8 Euro. 1/2 litter of wine is about 5 Euro. Total for two of us including alcohol. coffee and pizza cost us 32 Euro.

Eating Pizza at Matilda, Rimini. Please take yourself there the food is awesome and the super size pizza that we ate is only around 8 Euro. 1/2 litter of wine is about 5 Euro. Total for two of us including alcohol. coffee and pizza cost us 32 Euro.

My experience with my Couch surfers had been mostly amazing.. I have learned a lot about myself/others and I have shared a lot about myself as well.

Whom ever had the chance to stay with our family get treated like  family. No matter your background. I hope to have a home again one day soon after my travel to enjoy my experience hosting again, now with a even better view on life.

 I cannot believe how time flew and how much my life has change from when I left Perth. Everything now is just like a dream.
My new hobby now is folding paper cranes ( Origami) I read some where that if you make 1000 then the wish would come true.
So far I have made 50 only 950 to go. My wish is to find myself a new home where I can be happy and still be creative living a mungs friends and family and that my feet would never be bounded again. We all can travel no matter our budget and I have proven this to my self and hopefully the world.

So for now Take care my dear friends and new family members.

Make sure to like my blog and my Facebook page and also let me know what you would like to know or see me write more of.

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Hotel Marcus website: http://www.hotelmarcus.net/home.html So if you come down this way come and say hello to my new family and tell them that you know me or of me 🙂 I’m sure they will take care of you just as well. The rooms rat start at 34 Euro per person including breakfast, enjoy.

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My home for three Weeks

My first HelpX in Saint-Jorioz France

It is nearly two weeks here in my first HelpX in France. How did I get here?

First of all I am involved in a HelpX community a bit like Woofing. I send a letter to Sophie (my host) to ask if Julien and I could come and help her, and this is my first letter to her.

Hello,
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> I will be traveling to Annecy, France in January and would love to come
> and help. It will be with my partner who is French and I am
> Australian/Cambodian.
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> We both are quiet and clean and I would like to learn to ski and go to
> Mont Blanc as part of my bucket list. I will arrive in Paris from 19th
> December and staying with friends that I have hosted here in Australia
> and they are returning a favor. We understand that you only want
> Female.. would you consider taking my partner Julien in as well?
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> Thank you in advance
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> Thyda & Julien

 

Hello
Thank you for your interest for out Family. We could actually think of hosting you with your boyfriend from january 4th til january 23d in the apartment in our house available for that period.
I see you have 3 kids. Just wanted To know if they are part of your trip ? Should you give me more détails will be appreciated.
Kind regards
Sophie

Bonjour Sophie,

 
Thank you so much for such a quick reply. The kids will not be traveling with me and will be staying with their father during the school holiday. 
 
Julien would like to work at the ski resort if you know of anyone who is looking for someone? Julien is a keen gardener and fluent both in French and English I myself would love to learn French through Zoe and Justine.
 
 We are willing to do what is necessary to help your beautiful family in what ever task assigned.  
 
I have been running my own cleaning business for over 8 years and I have staff taking care of aromatherapy cleaning (www.aromatherapycleaning.com.au) while im away. I was also a cook at an Asian restaurant in Perth for a while as well.
 
We are proactive couple.  I have hosted many Couch Surfers from all over the world and understand your needs for privacy and schedule.
 Julien has partake in woofing for over one year in Australia and they are now our family. 
 
We are more than happy to give references.
 
Looking forward to a positive reply.
 
 
Regards
 
 
Thyda and Julien
 
ps I do prefer to be called Thyda ( pronounce Teda) even though my business name is still Christie.

Bonjour Thyda,

Thank you very much for your email with all details.
We have been thinking about your stay here and actually have changed a little bit our initial proposals about help with the kids since we are quite organized by now since the girls are growing up and can do quite a lot by themselves.
We could of course consider with pleasure having you stay in the apartment above ours from january 4th til january 23d. You could go skiing if you wish in the ski resorts around; We would be happy to taste your asian food as well while we are sharing some meals with you once in a while.
Our need as helper will be to repaint the walls of the living area and kitchen (ceiling, and walls) of the apartment above ours. Just wanted to know if you could think of it and are both fine with the idea.
I don’t think it would take you that long, but I would really appreciate to have it done seriously and carefully.
Looking forward to hearing from you,
kind regards
Sophie
Bonjour Sophie,
 
Yes we are happy to hear that the girls are all grown up now and can take care of them selves more. As for painting the apartment we are more than happy to help.. I have not mention to you I am an artist and even though painting the wall and ceiling is not necessary the same.. I am happy to make sure your apartment is well presented. Will the apartment have internet? I am excited to see what Annecy have in terms of produce? I will pack my favourite knifes because that is the one thing I cannot live without when I am cooking.
 
Would you like me to bring anything for you from Australia?
 
Thank you for letting us stay in Annecy and soon sharing some family meals together.
 
Thyda & Julien
Now we have just finished painting the first room and tomorrow we will start the kitchen.
Last week Sophie and the kids cooked Fondue and showed me how to eat it.
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Pictures I took of the surrounding area
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How to look like a tourist in Paris…

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First of all, wear a backpack and a bum bag. Be Asian and take lots of pictures.
The other day while walking in Paris I believe near Metro area, my credit card and license got snatched from the front pocket of my bumbag without knowing. I was warned to be very careful about it so I was always conscious of my belongings. The time I knew my things were stolen was at the end of the walk in the Eiffel Tower when I wanted to purchase some suveneers. I was shocked because I was being so careful with my things, but somehow by looking like a tourist make it easy for the pick poked thief to target me. The only thing I had in the bumbag was my credit cards and my drivers license and no money.

So my only advice is to have a bag that is strapped around the shoulder and walking with your hands on it at all times. It’s crazy coming from Australia where I would just leave my bags lying around not even worry about it.

I have learned my lesson the hard way, and I hope you all travel lots and stay safe.

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Melted cheese bag-gets… soo good. Cost 6 Euro

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Also, another thing to try is hot wine.. it taste like it’s got sugar, orange, and cineman in it.. when it’s cold this is my favourite things to drink. Cost 5 Euro

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We also sat down to have a coffee and I was surprised to know that the price for my coffee is 4.80 Euro that is like $7 this has to be the most expensive coffee I’ve ever had. But the view is oh so worth it:)

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And so I took a picture of it.

Nurture yourself.

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On Thursday I went on a 9 hr walk along Paris, on the way I went into Sacré-Cœur. This experience surprised me. Only because I felt like praying after over 16 years, and so I did.

I purchase a large candle,  lit it and I sat. I closed my eyes and I prayed…

I prayed for my mother to keep on fighting to get better.
I prayed for Tayla to be happy and not too sad that I am not around for a while.
I prayed for Trent to stay positive and do what he is doing now.
I prayed for Jet not to forget about me.
I prayed for Ryan to have the enery to take care of Jet without me and for his finance to improve.
I know they will continue to live even-though I am not around physically…
I prayed for my own health and for my test result to be just a mistake.
I prayed for my relationship with my partner because I felt not at ease .

There is so much decision still to be made but nothing is certain. For once I will soon get to be with my boyfriend without the stress of selling the house and final details before leaving Australia.

I was in the moment in the “Now” and am so focus that I cried, my tears just started pouring down my face and I allowed it I just sat there until I felt a sense of calmness.

Right now even though I am greatfull for this experience to travel the world I am still in a lot of pain from being away from my friends and loved ones back home…

My life is very uncertain and I am feeling all emotions of gratefulness and sadness at the same time.

Everyday I have to remind myself… “look after yourself more” and to remind myself to pray/meditate more.

This is my self talk for the last few days:

I will make self care  important.. I have to take some time to be by myself, just by myself. I will do things that gives me peace, love, and joy with myself. I will nurtured myself physically by walking in Paris with friends, and consuming healthy foods. I will nurture myself emotionally by listening to songs I love, looking at paintings, and help out around the house. When I am able to offer help to others I feel I am deserving of receiving the gift of love back. When I live my life with purpose, I will feel good about myself.
I will also nurture myself mentally by reading my favorite books, and spiritually by taking the time to meditate.

There you go my friends, I would like you to try and take some time today  to “Nurture’ yourself, especially during this time of year when most things get out of balance.

Something for you to listen to.

The universe always provide signs.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-UnQi0wea-s

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“If I Can Dream”

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Merry Christmas my Eat Pray Love Around the World family.

To those that are blessed to be with friends and family in this festive season take a moment to be grateful. May you never take things for granted. .

For those who cannot be with your love ones today give the people your with or find some one to give a hug and kiss.

Keep on dreaming that dream, never give up.

I hope your heart is filled with love.
Your soul never stop searching.
Your feet never shackled.
Your hands always open.
Your pockets be full.
Your nights are warm and comfortable.
Your dreams never left unspoken.

Kiss and hugs to you all, because right now it feel like a dream….. a dream that I do not want to wake up from.

Here is a song for you all.

“If I Can Dream”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWtXobFa8wk&list=HL1387956377

There must be lights burning brighter somewhere
Got to be birds flying higher in a sky more blue
If I can dream of a better land
Where all my brothers walk hand in hand
Tell me why, oh why, oh why can’t my dream come trueThere must be peace and understanding sometime
Strong winds of promise that will blow away
All the doubt and fear
If I can dream of a warmer sun
Where hope keeps shining on everyone
Tell me why, oh why, oh why won’t that sun appear

We’re lost in a cloud
With too much rain
We’re trapped in a world
That’s troubled with pain
But as long as a man
Has the strength to dream
He can redeem his soul and fly

Deep in my heart there’s a trembling question
Still I am sure that the answer gonna come somehow
Out there in the dark, there’s a beckoning candle
And while I can think, while I can talk
While I can stand, while I can walk
While I can dream, please let my dream
Come true, right now
Let it come true right now
Oh yeah

Thyda

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Breath Thyda, just breath…….

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Hello friends,

I’m not feeling the best. For the last 4 days my mind and body crashed. I went to see the doctor yesterday and had a big scare. Somehow I was under so much pressure that my blood pressure spiked to an extreme level and I should have been..  Dead. That was very scary.

Everyone is living despite how I feel or how I choose to live my life.

Words cannot described how insanely busy I have been the past 3 months. I have been on a rollercoaster ride and I still don’t know when this will end.

Selling my house and everything in it is the hardest thing I have ever done… yes it is worse than child birth.

I am now living in between the farm at Serpentine and a friend’s house in Beaconsfield, very lucky to have a place to go to.

My travel plans are… Leave Perth 16 December, stay with friends from 19th December join Julien in Paris 30th December 2013.

I had a paps mere and the result came back as having a slow growth cancer cells. There is nothing I could do about it until end of January where they will conduct another test to see how it is progressing or if it has stopped.   My mother was in hospital while I was trying to sell my house and move. Even though she is out now I believe she has not got long to live and I don’t have the time to go to see her in Sydney and there is not much I can do for her right now, my sister had a miscarriage, my son moved out of home, my brother still won’t talk to me and my friends… well they seem to have disappeared on me adding to my stress.

People say how can you just leave and not see the kids for soo long? For me I don’t know how either but to stay will kill me. I need to go and find some piece within myself so I can come back and be a good mother again.

Selling the house the car, leaving the business and giving the control to someone else… now that’s tuff. I have fought so hard to live for so long now and my challenge is to stop fighting and just simply live.  

Breath Thyda, just breath.  I tell myself each and every minute now..  All I have to do to survive is to breath and be happy, surround myself with good people who care about me  and let go of the one that don’t. I do need and value my life, I need to stay alive not just for me but for my children.

I truly though I was going to die and not make it to Paris.. there is still a little hurdle to go.

For now this is just an update about how I feel. My energy is extremely low I cannot even speak properly. My ex-husband has offered me his home to rest and I will take that offer for the next few days.

I have been thinking about my wills a lot and I know I should get this done asap.

For now I shall leave you with this quote —

“Advice? I don’t have advice. Stop aspiring and start writing. If you’re writing, you’re a writer. Write like you’re a goddamn death row inmate and the governor is out of the country and there’s no chance for a pardon. Write like you’re clinging to the edge of a cliff, white knuckles, on your last breath, and you’ve got just one last thing to say, like you’re a bird flying over us and you can see everything, and please, for God’s sake, tell us something that will save us from ourselves. Take a deep breath and tell us your deepest, darkest secret, so we can wipe our brow and know that we’re not alone. Write like you have a message from the king. Or don’t. Who knows, maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to.”
― Alan Wilson Watts

Heading in the right ===>>> Direction.

 

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All these times I have been asking for a sign… what should I do next? Please give me a sign??? 

Well here its is… Connect with current and old friends more and if need be take the time to explain what has been happening with your life. I know I have been difficult to be and live with the past 4 years. I went to visit one of my dear friend and we talked and talked for 6hrs straight. It was so nice . Oh how I miss being with friends and having the time just to talk about our wants and needs to each other. 

In the past I have not allowed this because there is so much things in my head and the pressure to make money to support the family was tremendous. That is why I am letting go of material things in my life so I could have the time to be with my friends and family more. 

 

My dear friend with whom I had a conflict with while going through this major shift in my life has just wrote to me. It is good to reunite and say sorry. Because no matter what, your friends is your friends because they care. I know my old self have died and i feel alive with new energy and a new hope. Thank you my dear friend I think and care for you more than you realised.

Thank you for sending and sharing your special pictures, Thyda.

Your paintings and poetry are exactly just what helped you get through tremendous challenges you have been through. And, you are gifted in having such sensitive abilities to have your artistic skills be such a helpful part of your life. I will save these pictures and also your poetry.

It is also great that you are actually writing about your life now—this is currently, and will definitely continue to be, another very important focus to have now as well as in the future. Your own words will do more than release the current emotional burdens you have experienced and are experiencing. Your own words will become one of your most important “teachers” later on whenever you periodically re-read your words again for yourself. You will continue get a much bigger awareness and understanding at even deeper levels of the metaphors and patterns of life events that have occurred through time. It is wise to write about and to draw/paint these multiple details of events within your own current range of feelings and perspectives now. All of that will be highly valuable to continue to review a number of times through the years as your own perspectives and understandings continue to “grow” and broaden into wider and differently informative perspectives. Your detailed wordings and paintings will support your becoming even more your own major therapist and “healer.” And you will always find the right people to happen into your life to “be there” for you as well— in many different styles and ways. You already have that intuitive wisdom of “knowing” people who will be “right” for you to know.

Stay in touch with me as long as you want to. I care deeply about you and do love you. You have been, and are, very special in my life.

( the writer name is left out on purpose to protect her identity)

Fight or flight?

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I have always struggled to understand how human kind works. I grew up during the Cambodian war where everything you do is dictated by the person that holds the power or most of the one that could buy the most guns. “If you don’t do what we say we will kill you and your entire family member”.  Even though I was too young to remember the horrible act that happened, I was painted a picture from my mum and family who witness it. Choice was never an option. Since I was born I have to fight to stay alive, and sometimes I must admit I just don’t want to fight anymore.

Food has always been scares so survival skill was taught very early. Fear is all I have ever known thanks to war and the religion my family chose.

Somehow that pattern of fleeing from bombs, murders, rapes and guns still have a hold on me. When I am upset the whole feeling of that intense fear comes back and weighing me down stopping me from enjoying anything that is worth feeling good about.

Right now I have a brother that refuse to contact me because he is ashamed of me. Now to me this word is worse than hate. What have I done except to try and find some happiness in my life? My sister in-law whom I use to see every week don’t call me either because of that fear from my brother.  My son has just moved out of home and my daughter is now a teenager (enough said about her) It seems that I am not a magnet but a propeller that pushes everyone around me away.

The only thing I have right now is my writing because I feel my close friends and family don’t understand me. I am looking forward to my trip in Europe. Even then I don’t have a clue what’s going to happened. That fear of the un-known is driving me crazy. For once I just want some form of certainty in my life. A life where I don’t have to fight so hard to feel love to feel safe to feel joy.

Maybe somehow I believed unconsciously that I don’t deserve love in my life and I push anyone that is trying to show me love away? No one wants to be around the sad and lonely person except the shrink that benefits from it. And yes I have seen to a few.

When I am happy with myself and my life my money and business seem to flow in. When my personal life crumbles so is my money. I speak in confidence when I am with clients or in business surroundings and that is not a fake. I do find such joy in speaking about what I want to achieve next, and with whom that agree with my excitement.

Then I go back home to check my face book account to see what other people is up to. I don’t have many friends anymore since my separation with my ex husband. I can’t just go out all the time because I don’t have the energy, time or money now days. That saddens me. Just go out and enjoy life and don’t worry about what other people are doing on face book no one really care about what you posted on face book anyway. Well right now I care, it’s the only thing I have with the outside world I feel. When you don’t have the time it’s easy to say hi or “like” on fb.  Maybe I have to do something about this soon, but for now this is all I got to connect with the rest of the world. 

What am I not getting or missing? What is life trying to tell me? What am I suppose to do next? Some how I feel abandoned by my family and friends at the time I need them the most. 

Selling up my house giving away everything and now the readjustment of friends and family as well at the same time. There you go I have spewed enough bullshit about myself and I hope the next blog will be a much happier one.

 

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So past.. Stop tapping me on the shoulder, and just let me live already!

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You know when you are the a engine running the car and it  keeps on going and going, the people that is around you stop seeing you as important.

 Neglect from friends and families are what I am feeling right now.

They appreciate the exterior part that makes the car, and the engine get ignored. The reason I wanted to travel in the first place is to find peace within myself without the distraction of financial burden such as physical furniture, house cars etc.  The advice from my so called friends and family who suppose to love me is holding me back from growing. No one could ever understand the pressure I had in the past few years.

I am reinventing myself in order to adapt to the lost of friends and family along the way. My own family is not talking to me because I choose to get a divorce.

Distractions, demolished, destroyed, in-runes are what I hear and felt now days.

I set forth to mend to heal to help and to bring about some sort of certainty into my life. Who is anybody to judge?  It’s my life! Mine to live, Right? Wrong! Everyone is trying to put their two cents in every time I have a sense of achievement to move forward with my life. I am not trying to hurt or offend anybody! I just believe that this is my true path.

So yes, when I took this photo I felt a sense of resemblance of how I felt from what my so called friends and family have treated me over the years.

 

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So past… Stop tapping me on the back, and just let me live already!